Lobola demands that broke off an engagement: Pics. An unidentified Nigerian man called off his engagement after his potential in-laws charged an arm and a leg for lobola. So high was the bride price that the man was forced to break off the relationship.
Immediately after getting the list, the victim started giving his fiancee the silent treatment and ignoring her calls and messages. After seeing what the inlaws wanted for their daughter, who would blame them.
The list included a brand new phone for the mother-in-law coming from overseas,20000 Naira(USD55) for ‘searching the girl’s mother’, and various kitchen items including a whole lamb. As if that was not enough, the son-in-law had to part with an additional 150k Naira or USD $414 for the mother.
The List continues and by the time the second page of the lobola list is finished, the groom was expected to pay another whopping 155000Naira (USD427) in cash excluding the grocery items and booze. African culture tends to be unfair on women, selling them like commodities to would-be suitors.
This puts a lot of pressure on the men to incur debts so as to pay what the in-laws demand. To make matters worse and it happens in most cases the woman demands a lavish wedding as well, inconsiderate of the money her husband would have given her parents. This leaves anyone considering marriage in a huge financial hole, riddled in more debt.
These debts take their toll in the first years of marriage leading to fights and in some extreme cases domestic violence. The husband is left bitter and each time the wife messes up, she is on the receiving end because of the exorbitant amount her parents charged for her bride price. What’s your take on these lobolaDemands issues, Should we abolish this tradition that commodifies African women?
If you had a daughter, would you be content giving her away for nothing?
Source – iHarare
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