Nigel Slick Pastor talks about the hardships young men face especially those in the building stage of their lives. The Zimbabwean Comedian, Speaker and MC took to social media where he expressed his feelings and clearly pointed out that men also have problems and it’s not just women.
Society has always assumed that men are stronger than women and with cases of suicide on the rise (especially Zimbabwean men) it’s worth mentioning that men need guidance as well. I felt these words by Nigel Slick Pastor are worth sharing again and again.
Nigel Slick Pastor aka Nijo shared the above picture on his Facebook page and had this to say: Not taking anything away from the ladies but I feel like men go through a lot š„ŗ, especially young men who are navigating the ābuildingā stage of their lives.
Itās either you have a lot of time for your family and no money to support them or you are busy making ends meet which ends up taking a lot of your time hence depriving your family of your presence.
The world demands a lot from the man. The wife needs attention, love, understanding and also provisions. The world requires your labour and service in exchange for a means to sustain your livelihood.
The man is constantly in competition, either with other men or circumstances of nature. At almost every turn and instance, the head of the family is constantly thinking and plotting, devising and scheming ways to survive and meet his familyās expectations.
But heās human too š„ŗ. Sometimes he just wants to feel what itās like to sit and enjoy TV like everyone else without a the threat of bills intruding his mind. Everyday, men are faced with situations that challenge their sufficiency. Will I make enough this month, am I satisfying my partner, will I retain my job in this recession, is my health alright with all the stress Iām constantly under??
So many questions, very few answers many a time. Of all the things I have listed I feel that the biggest burden is not even these problems but the greatest pain for the man is going through these challenges and feeling no one UNDERSTANDS you, they only expect from you. While I do not approve, justify or condone the following I tend to UNDERSTAND how many end turning to:
1. Alcoholism
2. Pornography and womanizing
3. Drug and substance abuse
4. Absenteeism
5. Fits of rage
6. Suicide
Most times these behaviors and patterns begin as an escape channel, trying to avoid facing the beckoning reality with each passing second. I repeat, those are not solutions but I think I get how people end up trapped in such.
Do you know itās very normal for a man to want to just sit there and be quiet for 8 hours straight šš, because life is tiring man and even talking becomes such a task. This is why some came up with the idea of a āman caveā, that room at home you can just retreat to and be yourself and enjoy your own company but kuno unoita man cave ipi uchiroja mu two rooms š . May God help all men. May God help all families. Trust in Jesus.
I have seen a lot of great potential go to waste because of low self-esteem, trauma and depression….
You can see more of Nigel Slick Pastor on his Facebook Page and be sure to check out his Youtube channel for some interesting content. He will surely make you laugh and get rid of that stressful moments. We saw the Comic Pastor (he supports Manchester City by the way) in the UK a few weeks ago, and we wonder when Nigel Slick Pastor will be in the United Kingdom.
Source – News365.uk – Facebook
